This is what those “virginity pledges” get you. What is shocking about this article is how uninformed and stupid these young people are. They have NO sex education. We have to start educating our young generation. No more canceling sex-ed programs and no more catering to religious groups. Their buttholes depend on it.
Carry — a Colorado college student who had been in a steady relationship for months — was recently cajoled by her boyfriend into some sexual experimentation.
He wanted to try anal sex, and even though the 20-year-old said she was “OK with the idea,” she nervously downed several drinks before their lovemaking began.
Within 15 seconds, Carry — not her real name — said she was “crying and asking him to stop.”
They never did it again. But experts say that as social mores ease, more young heterosexuals are engaging in anal sex, a behavior once rarely mentioned in polite circles. And the experimentation, they worry, may be linked to the current increase in sexually transmitted diseases.
Recently, researchers at the Bradley Hasbro Children’s Research Center in Rhode Island suggested that anal sex is on the rise among teens and young adults, particularly those who have unprotected vaginal sex.
Experts say girls and young women like Carry are often persuaded to try such sexual behavior for the wrong reasons — to please a partner, to have sex without the risk of pregnancy or to preserve their virginity. But many don’t understand the health consequences.
“It really is shocking how many myths young people have about anal sex,” said Judy Kuriansky, a Columbia University professor and author of “Sexuality Education: Past Present and Future.”
“They don’t think you can get a disease from it because you’re not having intercourse,” she told ABCNews.com. “They can actually recite by rote how you get AIDS, but it doesn’t transfer to their personal behavior.”
More than one-third of new HIV infections in the United States occur among people between the ages of 13 and 29 and can be attributed to the mind-set among youth that they are not at risk of contracting the virus, according to the Kaiser Foundation.
Young Women at Risk
The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention also report that young women, especially those of minority races or ethnicities, are increasingly at risk for HIV infection through heterosexual contact. They are biologically vulnerable, don’t recognize their partners’ risk factors and are often unequal in relationships.
And when women engage in anal sex, tissue may tear, more readily causing direct blood exposure to infected fluids.
“There is no doubt that teens lack information about STDs and the safety of different behaviors and they they are engaging in more sexual experimentation,” Lescano told ABCNews.com.
“That is why studies like these are so important to conduct,” she said. “We need to know what teens do and do not know, what behaviors they are engaging in, and what information we need to provide to them so that they can make decisions that will help protect their sexual health.”
“I have been having sex for only 12 years, so I don’t know if it was just something I didn’t talk about when younger,” said Tracie Egan, 29, who writes about sex and pop culture for Jezebel.com.
Raised in the 1990s, Egan was exposed to sex-laden MTV, documentaries on gay lifestyles and television shows like “Sex and the City.”
“We were raised in a different way,” she said. Girls of her generation, the so-called third wave of feminism, she said, were able to have sex with multiple partners and could detach themselves “socially and emotionally.”
Still, Egan said that when she had anal sex with a boyfriend for the first time at 26, she was drunk, used no condom — they were monogamous — and didn’t even know how to clean herself.
“Lack of sex education in school is really bothersome to me,” she said. “Even I don’t know about a lot of the biological issues.”